How go you? You have right. We have the nose full. Fear eat up soul.
What are our words about? What are we really trying to say when we use the words we do? Language can be brilliant – it’s perhaps one of mankind’s greatest inventions . And the more languages we hear, the more we learn about what it is people are actually trying to say. Sometimes, we’re “source” communicators (we need to just get things out); sometimes, we’re “client” communicators (we focus on what others will actually hear and how they’ll respond) and we’re often also somewhere in-between. But what, really, is it we’re actually trying to say when we use the words we do? This last month, I’ve heard people asking some good questions. But for some reason, I couldn’t help notice that people were using these words to actually try and say something more powerful. And they’ve left me wondering… what are people really trying to say?
What was at the core – the heart - of all of these things people have recently asked?
- What’s put that spring in your step?
- How do you do the things you do the way you do?
- What’s that smile for?
- How did you do that so incredibly well?
- What would really make a difference for you?
- What do you want to change tomorrow?
- What could I do for you that would make you giggle?
- How does all this make you feel?
- How do you manage things the way you do?
- Have you any idea what kind of difference you make?
- Do you know how much we miss you when you’re not here?
- Do you realise that no-one – anywhere – does this quite like you?
- How come you get people so well – better than anyone else?
- What weird thing would you love us to do for you today?
- Do you realise that no matter what happens, we’ll always see how brilliant you are?
- Have you any idea just how much I appreciate the things you do?
- What question will convey to you all the amazing things I’d like to say but daren’t?
Never mind the words - what do these questions tell us? What is it that the people were really trying to say? There’s no single answer. The key might be in the energy of the moment. In other words, when people are together, there’s an unavoidable power – a natural magic - to their moment together. It’s not easy to describe, it can’t be recreated, and it’s the most natural thing in the world. But we humans react to what we sense with language. Our human words just help us notice the energy of each moment and describe it a little. Words, questions and conversations seem simply to be people’s response to this unique energy. And this shared energy of the moment is fed by the energy of who people truly are. It’s powerful stuff. So how do we feel when we are not only more aware of it, but even better, we’re able to use it to improve the lives of others?
Language can be fascinating, but increasingly, it seems to be but a symptom of what we really mean. How would you feel if someone asked you the questions above? What would this do to your day? Enough with the questions and words. Have a great week. Sense the energy of what we’re sending you – and enjoy each and every moment of people talking to you. They might not say what they mean, but they’re definitely doing their very best. :-)
N’est-ce pas? Oder? Nye Pravda?
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